Staying connected with family and friends
Regular contact with family and friends promotes a feeling of belonging and reduces the feeling of isolation. Asserting your thoughts, needs and desires can help strengthen your confidence and relationships with others.
After giving birth to your baby, it’s important to dedicate time to your social wellbeing for your mental health. It’s not only essential to properly rest and recharge but also to maintain social relationships so you don’t feel as though you are losing your sense of self after having a child. It might seem like the only thing you should focus on is attending to every need of your baby, but focusing on your own needs is important to support your wellbeing and prevent mental health issues such as anxiety or depression and physical health problems such as diabetes.
Make sure to take time for your friendships, family, and other members of your community. It is in your social circle that you will find support and love, which will only give you strength to better take care of your child. Maintaining a sustainable social routine as much as you can is critical for your well-being. This isn’t to say that your relationships won’t change following the birth of your child, but rather that they are an important part of the holistic process of raising a child.
Reflection questions
For parents
- Three people who I feel comfortable to talk to about my feelings, fears, concerns, etc.: ____________________
- When I feel lonely, I can (text/call/e-mail) ___________
- Three people who I feel comfortable talking to about my baby’s milestones and development: ____________________
- There are many different ways a parent needs to be supported after having a baby. Try to think of people who can support you in these areas:
- Household task support (cleaning/tidying, laundry, etc.) ____________________
- Cooking/nourishment support (providing meals, grocery shopping) ___________________
- Childcare support (caring for older siblings, caring for baby) ___________________
- Emotional support (a listening ear, an encouraging friend) ___________________
- How do I best feel supported by family and friends? Have I let my loved ones know how they can best help me?
More resources
- Building My Village: What Does Support and Care Look Like For You? - Explore the 4th Trimester Project's resources to build your own support network.
- Postpartum Support International - Find an online support group to connect with other parents on their parenting journey.
- Early Childhood Family Education - Join a parenting education program to meet with others and find support for you and your child's development.